I’ve been diagnosed with a serious illness. Now what?
Finding out that you have a serious illness can be overwhelming. You may experience a range of feelings that includes anger, fear, frustration, sadness, depression, confusion, guilt and hopelessness. Being diagnosed with a serious illness can trigger the grief cycle, which includes being angry about the news, denying that the diagnosis is real, a desire to bargain—often with God—about the news, becoming depressed about the news and ultimately accepting the fact that you are ill.
It’s important to understand as much about your condition as possible. Share your concerns with your doctor and be sure to ask questions about your condition so that you understand your symptoms and how to cope with them, and so that you have a better understanding of what is taking place inside your body because of your illness. It is sometimes helpful to seek a second opinion from another healthcare provider.
Be sure to talk to your doctor about possible treatments for your illness. Ask him or her specifically about your prognosis—what the course of the illness will look like, what outcomes are possible, whether the illness is curable, etc. Asking the following questions can help you better understand your illness and how to proceed from here.
Are there treatments available?
What do those treatments involve?
What side effects are you likely to experience as a result of treatments?
Are these treatments directed at curing your illness?
Is there a cure for your illness?
If there is no cure, is your illness considered life-limiting?
If your illness is life-limiting, what is your prognosis?
If treatments are available for your illness, talk further with your doctor about the ones that are best suited for your individual scenario. If your illness is not treatable and you are interested in doing so, talk with your doctor about the possibility of participating in an approved clinical trial.
If it is determined that your illness is not curable and that no effective treatments are available (or if the side effects of available treatments outweigh the possible benefits), it may be time to consider comfort care instead of curative approaches. If your doctor estimates that your illness will run its normal course and result in your death in six months or less, you may be eligible to receive hospice care.
Why should I consider hospice care?
Hospice care is a philosophy of care—as well as a kind of care—provided to patients living with a terminal illness. It serves to meet not only the physical or medical needs of the patient, but also the psychological, emotional and spiritual needs of the patient. The goal of hospice care is to provide pain management and symptom control to patients with life-limiting illnesses so that they are comfortable and can live their remaining days with dignity and with an increased ability to focus on the things that matter most to them, such as spending time with family, traveling and making new memories with loved ones.
If you are living with a terminal illness, hospice care can provide the following benefits to you:
-Pain control and management of symptoms
-Enhanced quality of life
-Support in making decisions about end-of-life care
-The ability to be involved in choices about your care
-Support in alleviating psychological, social and spiritual distress
-Increased opportunities to come to terms with your illness in healthy ways
-Preservation of your dignity in the final stages of life
-Avoidance of unnecessary and stressful visits to the ER and hospital
-24/7 availability of hospice nurses via phone (and in person when necessary) to answer questions and address concerns
-The availability of spiritual advisors and counseling